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 Julija Ritčik, singer (Lithuania), 29/07/2009
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Julija Ritčik is the leader of the Lithuanian band '4FUN'. They play different styles of music, including rock, pop rock, country and others. The band was created in 2001 and participated in several national and international festivals since. '4FUN' achieved good results in LRT Songs Top-10 (6th in 2004) and in Visaginas Country festival. |
When you cried last time and, if no secret, for what reason? I am a rather sensitive person, so, for me crying is a common way of reacting to different things – usually feeling of sadness or happiness. I can cry when I read (for example, a book like "The Little Prince"), when I see a movie, a documentary, hear the news – any kinds of sad and bad things happening to people, animals, countries and nations can make me cry. I might also cry when some really unexpectedly good and happy things happen to them… I cry when I have serious arguments with my husband (it can be both over a personal issue or something related to our creative musical work), when I can’t find reasons and words to assure my son (he’s 9) to do something important (something I consider important) and resort to unfair in my opinion methods, like scolding, shouting or threatening. One of the last times I cried really bitterly was a couple of weeks ago, when I took him to see the doctor and he simply refused to let the doctor examine him - crying, resisting and saying 'let’s do it next time'! The doctor, his assistant and me were explaining there wouldn’t be any 'next time', because the doctor hasn’t got time, threatening him with stupid things like 'we’ll have to take you to hospital then', putting him to shame, but at some point I realized how ineffective we were - he wasn’t listening to us at all, he was just absorbed in his fear and the funniest thing was we all knew there would be 'next time'… Then I burst into tears right at the doctor’s, as the situation had repeated several times this year, and I again was unable neither to anticipate the problem, nor to handle it. I just felt hopeless as a mother.
There are some events during our life, when it seems as there is no way out. That could be tragic circumstances or such assessment of them. At that time, what's the thing to do? Well, if the situation is really bad and tough, I cry – it anyway helps to get rid of most negative emotions, I feel better after that. Then I remind myself that even when you can’t change the situation, you still can change your attitude. So I just start thinking how I should live on and what I should do to find a proper solution in existing circumstances. I try to remember that there are good times and there are bad times, that all things pass, that there are many things and situations in our lives that we can’t change or control, but we really can control our attitudes and feelings and we should do that. The saying "God, give me strength to change things I can change, patience to submit to things I can’t change, and wisdom not to confuse one and the other" is one of my favourite guides in life. I believe there always is a way out, we just have to accept the reality the way it is, make our choices and be responsible for them. We live the way we feel, and we feel the way we want.
Could you please choose any event of last days, weeks or months, that has distressed you? It can be any happening on a local or international scale. How could you comment on it? I can’t remember anything extraordinary that has happened recently. I feel sad about people suffering from natural disasters, catastrophes or bad accidents – but these are things we can’t choose or control. What makes me really feel distressed is wars and any kind of human violence, I also feel hopeless when children suffer from violent behaviour of adults.
There's always a new danger watching for humanity in its way, always a new temptation we're ready succumb to. What's the danger of our days? And what's the way to avoid this trap? I think people care too much about material things. I’m not sure if it’s the danger of our days only. Somehow people forget that we don’t rule neither the world, nor the Universe, they try to control and possess as much as they can. People don’t realize themselves as equally important parts of the society, of life, of the Universe; many think they are better, stronger, cleverer and deserve more than others, so they start fighting for that 'more', no matter the price and the means.
What are the main obstructions to apply humanities principles at our today's life? Could they be solved? Maybe again, political and social establishment in modern world is often based on material things. Maybe we should think and care more about spiritual things, search for humanity in our own hearts, try to apply those principles to our everyday life, bring our children this way, try to stay human ourselves, whatever the circumstances and the situation. However, nowadays the world seems to be rather inhuman on the whole, with rather little respect to a human being or life itself. Nevertheless, we shouldn’t lose hope – just let’s be human and the world will change some day.
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